DAY ONE: MORNING (II) – Brian

“HOPE YOU HAD A NICE BREAK. This session will take us up to lunchtime, so enjoy every minute. May I welcome back to the stage, MAGNES JACK.”

MAGNES JACK: Ok. Now you’re all hazy with tea and coffee and cakes, this should be a most left-field session. Who wants to start? And remember the theme – “Feel the fun and do it your way!”

Brian: So far, all I have got of any practical use is about framing things for fun. Is that it?

MAGNES JACK: Well, before we do anything else, have you mastered that?

Brian: Sure. Framing is easy. I frame things for fun all the time.

MAGNES JACK: Great. So what are you doing here?

Brian: I was hoping for more.

MAGNES JACK: More what?

Brian: More ways to change, quicker ways to change.

MAGNES JACK: Brian, are you saying you are running out of tools or that the tools you have are not enough?

Brian: I suppose I want more tools. The one’s I have work, and they are “Ok!” but…

MAGNES JACK: But what…?

Brian: I want more.

MAGNES JACK: We’re in danger of looping the loop here. [Smiling] Ok, Brian, if you had more, how might you know you had it? Would you be feeling different, acting different, doing amazing new things, would other people be different around you? Would you share with us your inklings on this?

Brian: I suppose I would have a great deal more energy for life. I mean, don’t get me wrong, things are fine, but I just feel there is more, and that is the word that keeps doing the rounds for me.

MAGNES JACK: Ok. I’m with you. You want more and one of the characteristics of this is that you would feel more “energy for life”, as you put it, compared with now.

Brian: Yes, basically.

MAGNES JACK: Brian, did it ever occur to you that you could simply have more “energy for life” without waiting for a new tool, or technique. That you already have this 100% within you.

Brian: If I’m honest, yes, I can feel it, but getting it out?

MAGNES JACK: Brian, thank you for being so honest, because once again, just as earlier, you have provided us with a beautiful example of wanting to experience X, but believing that Y must be in place first, and that without Y, X is impossible. And in this virtual world, such a construction does indeed make X impossible. We make SELF-STOPPING RULES like this all the time.

SELF-STOPPING RULES
Quite simply, self-stopping rules are constructions that we follow to not get what we want or need. Bizarre, but true. They are very effective indeed, and if not addressed, can last not only a lifetime, but can be passed on to succeeding generations.

MAGNES JACK: I am fortunate Brian, in that I can see you in a way that you can’t possibly see yourself. I see someone who longs out to feel more “energy for life”, and who can already feel the glimmers, the seeds, of what that might be like. The seeds are there Brian. And they are waiting patiently. But you are afraid.

Only last week, I was watching the Olympics and they were interviewing a pentathlon athlete and asking her how she prepared mentally. She said something very interesting in this regard. She said that she always saw herself making the perfect performance. She saw herself doing the very best she could in each discipline. The presenter asked her why, and she said that in this way she wouldn’t be surprised when she did brilliantly, and it wouldn’t affect the next discipline.

Can you see Brian, how you are framing this desire of yours?

Brian: Not really, if I’m honest.

MAGNES JACK: Anyone else like to comment on the framing?

Stephen: Hi. Is it that Brian is making feeling “energy for life” a really difficult, almost impossible task, which is only accessible via some almost magical tool?

MAGNES JACK: Very good! And what does that imply? That he needs this magical tool?

Stephen: That he somehow doesn’t already have it within him?

MAGNES JACK: Absolutely! Yes. And if he doesn’t have it within him, then it’s always going to be a struggle isn’t it. It is almost a foreign body as it were.

Brian, does this help in some way?

Brian: A little. The cogs are moving. [Smiling] So are you saying that I haven’t really accepted that I already have this within me?

MAGNES JACK: Well, yes, that’s one aspect. But then, what is stopping you from seeing this beautiful capacity just waiting to be given the nod?

Brian: Nothing really.

MAGNES JACK: Well, perhaps. But would you be willing to have some fun finding out?

Brian: I most certainly would!

MAGNES JACK: Ok. Your project then, for the rest of the day, is to allow your natural energy for life to spring through, and as you do so, to have some fun learning how to shape and manage that in your interactions and as you go about life. Deal?

Brian: Deal!

MAGNES JACK: Great. Let us know how you get on won’t you.

Brian: I most certainly shall. [Beaming]